How Would You Respond?
A couple of months back, when we bought our new car, I was online chatting with a friend and wanted to tell her about the car. So, I prefaced saying, “We bought a new car” with, “Want to hear something sort of exciting?” She said “Sure” and so I told her about the car.
Unfortunately it didn’t end there. That weekend we went out with she and her boyfriend and sometime during the night she told me that when I said “Want to hear something sort of exciting” that she was “Really scared” that I was going to announce I was pregnant. I responded, “Nope, not yet”, but it’s been bothering me ever since.
Why would someone be “really scared” that their happily married friend was pregnant? I can understand that, you know, when the baby comes along there might not be as much time to hang out with friends, and if I were pregnant I probably wouldn’t hang out in the normal smoke-filled bars where we usually meet, but still. It bothered me. I really like this friend and am scared that when I do get pregnant and have to tell her, that she won’t want to see me any more. She doesn’t even want kids, so I know it’s not a jealousy issue, and she has two close friends with kids, so it’s not that she hates kids either.
I just don’t know what I’ll say or how I should address it when the time comes.